In five days, I’ll be packing my bags and flying out for yet *another* European adventure.
There are amazing clients to see, bucket list items to tick off (for real!) and hugs to be had from my mom and friend, who are already overseas waiting for me.
Here’s what my itinerary looks like so far.
- I land in Iceland and tick off one of my Bucket List items (hiking in Iceland, done!)
- I head to the UK for the FlipRunway awards with my UK Distributor and clients, then meet up with Mom, Loree Pringle, and Lisa Marie Holmes.
- Then it’s off to the South of France, where I’ll spend some time in the sun and meet with my Italian distributor regarding a new project I’m working on (I can’t wait to share this one with you! It’s gonna be AMAZING!)
- Chased by a quick stop in Barcelona for yet another massively inspiring project!
- Before pulling on my ‘Do Not Disturb’ mask and flying
All in all, it’s a 12-day whirlwind with a few days tucked away just for me.
(You can bet there’ll be a couple of glasses of wine sipped while I soak up the beautiful sunsets in Southern Europe!)
Life looks pretty peachy, right? Honestly, I wouldn’t change it for the world. I know I’m so lucky to be where I am*.
And yet …
As I sit here, planning the “how’s” of my upcoming trip, I just can’t shake off the deep sense of guilt I have from leaving my son yet again for ten days away.
Will my son be okay while I’m away? Heck, will I even be able to enjoy my time away while I’m busy worrying about him?
‘Cause let’s be real here for a minute. These are REAL fears and realities in today’s day and age. Modern technology is great, Facetime is awesome, but nothing replaces holding your little one in your arms and kissing them goodnight.
And, truth time, if I thought the Terrible Two’s were bad, I’ve descended into a whole new parenting minefield this year. I don’t know if it’s me being away travelling so much, or if he’s going through a growth spurt, or if it’s just regular toddler behavior, but parenting through his Three’s is HARD!
No. Wait. Parenting full stop is hard.
And just when you think you’ve got it figured out … WHAM. Another curve ball gets volleyed your way.
So … how does a mama – with a busy life as a businesswoman – cope?
As a mom, stress is inevitable. It’s part of being a parent. But it is manageable.
Now, I wish I had all the answers, but I don’t. I am going through life, being a first-time mom and entrepreneur, just trying my best to do the right thing, and be the best that I can be for myself, my son and my job.
But what I have learned, I’d love to share with you, in the hopes that you may be able to take something away that genuinely helps ease mom guilt and reassure you that you’re doing a great job.
(Because you are!)
So with that in mind here are …
Five ways I ease my guilt as a busy mompreneur
#1: I spend quality time with my son.
Being a single mom and juggling everything is often difficult. There’s growing my team, managing my team, expanding operations, all while trying to maintain my sanity with an active three-year-old. When you add in adrenal fatigue (from my illness last year – I’ll share this in another blog post with you), sometimes it can feel super overwhelming. But when quantity is hard to come by, I rely on quality to feel connected with my son. For me, short but meaningful moments where I give him my complete attention are better than a wave of longer moments where I’m distracted and multi-tasking.
#2: I re-evaluate my wants and desires.
I’ve learned that travelling at this frequency (I’ve done 50,000 miles this year alone) isn’t for everyone. I used to love travelling … When I was single. Sans child. These days, I get my joy out of building pillow forts and watching cartoons with my son. In the future, I’ll have to re-evaluate what I thought was a priority in my life and balance it with what I actually want and desire today.
#3: I shun stress.
You can, quite literally, stress yourself to death. And while *some* positive stress can help you achieve your goals, I think it’s so important to not let it completely overwhelm you. Which is why, even when the fan has been hit by the metaphorical contents of a diaper, I try to stay positive, hope for the best and focus on the good.
#4: I *try* not to be too hard on myself.
The pressure to be the perfect businesswoman and mother is real. But we’re all going through life for the first time. We will make mistakes and stuff up. Life is a constant learning experience. It’s inevitable, and part of the fun! The best you can do is learn from your experiences (cough – maybe mistakes? – cough) and make it right for the future.
#5: I never neglect “me” time.
I’m more than a mother. I’m more than a business owner, manager, supplier, customer and daughter. I’m ME. And even when it feels like there is just no time for me to be me, I have to make it possible (as impossible as that feels sometimes).
Which is why even though I’d love to get back and cuddle my son sooner, I know it’s just as important for me to take a few days for me so that when I do return, I’m able to be the best I can be for him.
Now it’s your turn …
How do you as a mom, and entrepreneur, be there for everyone (especially yourself)? Got any tips for me? I’d love you to share them in the comments below!
Be sure to check out my Instagram for pics of my upcoming travels too!
* Okay, it’s not luck – it’s HARD FRIGGEN WORK with a whole lot of dedication, drive, persistence and devotion thrown in.
P.S. Fun fact: Did you know Iceland has this amazing deal where you can stopover for no additional cost? Love. It. Color Inspiration here I come!